Being a Mom is serious business. Before I had children, I didn’t realize the magnitude of the commitment. There are sleepless nights, illnesses that spread like wildfire, cuts, scrapes and plenty of tears. There are also many, uncountable joyous times. My children have changed my life in ways I couldn’t have imagined. So here’s my take on How to Be a Perfect Mom.
If you think I really know how to be a perfect Mom, I’m good at deception. I have absolutely no idea how to be a perfect mom! Sometimes I actually feel like a downright failure. I’m here to tell you, there’s absolutely no way to do everything right all the time. You can, however, learn to accept your mistakes and take pride in your successes as a mother.
Take a Time Out
Sometimes Mommy needs a time out too. Seriously! Before you react, take a timeout. If I walk away from a situation and consider what I want to accomplish before I speak, the outcome is always better. Take a few deep breaths and think it through before you approach your kids, or your spouse for that matter!
We all do and say things we regret. I have apologized to my children more times than I can count. Sometimes I let my temper get the best of me. When I walk into a room filled with crumbs, toys and melted popsicles I have a tendency to squawk like a bird. That’s not a pretty sight! Then, a few minutes later I regret my unattractive outburst. I’ve learned to forgive myself and then make an effort to improve. I know in my heart I was wrong and pledge to react differently next time. You HAVE TO forgive yourself. This is a must!
Of course we all want to be that cool Mom that plans fun activities for the kids and helps them with their homework every night. We want to proudly announce our kids have straight A’s in school, have never had a cavity and play nice during every play date. But let’s be realistic, we aren’t perfect, our kids aren’t perfect. It’s just a fact of life.
Create a Plan to Improve
I was recently contacted by my 3rd graders Teachers’. They were disappointed and concerned about his “lack of effort” in school. Say what? From where I’m standing he looks like a brilliant angel. Come on! Then I realized I’ve been lazy. He’s such a smart kid. I trusted he was doing his homework and assignments correctly. I don’t even look at his homework binder anymore. What kind of Mother have I become?
What makes me feel better is to have an improvement plan. Instead of dwelling on my errors, I come up with a plan to make the situation better and prevent it from happening again in the future. Once I do that, I feel better and stop beating myself up.
Give it a try. Feeling guilty about something? Create an improvement plan and implement it. You will be amazed at the weight that’s lifted off your shoulders.
Maybe you’re Super Mom and weren’t even interested in “How to Become a Perfect Mom”. More power to you Mama! Me? I know I’m not perfect, but I do my best and that’s good enough for me. In my kids’ eyes, I’m the most perfect woman on the planet. You know what that means? Maybe I am a perfect Mom after all!
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